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Ask Orpheus Black…
Question: I am having a problem creating my own poly dynamic. Do you have any advice on the best way to go about it? ANSWER: I think of my life and my lifestyle as a new world. A world of my own...
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Playground Poly-tics
One cannot be Poly without constantly taking an inward journey, accessing and reassessing…We get to know ourselves quite well. Lately, doing this has caused earlier and earlier memories of my...
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Misconceptions about Polyarmory
When we talk about Polyarmory for some there is a great fear of the unknown. We see the images online of fanatic cults or religious zealots and get scared of what we do not understand…. We confuse...
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Do you see what I see…
When I first learned about Polyamory, I thought I had struck gold. It was my new tailor made suit. It looks so good and fit so well. We’re going to live happily ever after! But the reality is living...
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Ask Orpheus Black: Poly Vs Non Monogamy
Q: I am trying to learn about Poly and every time I find a source that says one thing I will find a source that says another. Whats the deal? Is there a such thing as poly or is it just a general term?...
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Ask Orpheus Black: Open Relationship’s, Polygamy and More.
Q: Can you have an open Polyandrous or Polygynous relationship? A: The short answer is, “Yes“…. While rare, you can have an open Polyandrous and Polygynous relationship…. Before I go further, I think...
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Ask Orpheus Black: Poly, BDSM and Successful Relationships?
Q: Can a Poly, BDSM relationships work? A: I have lead an open, 24 /7 poly lifestyle for over 18 years while also living as a professional and lifestyle dominant. To me BDSM provides a foundation for...
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That hardest human learned trait that few ever learn how to deal with…
Jealousy is a learned character trait. Not just a emotion but a learned trait that causes a conflict with your emotions the more that you allow it to be defined by your emotions more than the logic...
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Label Whore…oops, I mean slut!
Poly woman, Black woman, Working mother, waitress in the sky (instead of flight attendant,) cake queen (instead of baker,) sign lady (instead of sign language interpreter,) part-time girlfriend, loyal...
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From Black & Panther to Black & Poly: An Interview with Ex-Black Panther Kato...
A lot of folks have asked me what makes being Black & Poly different from just being plain poly, but my answer is that its in the folks that choose this lovestyle. Although Kato Cooks may be one of...
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Label Whore
Poly woman, Black woman, working mother, waitress in the sky (instead of flight attendant,) cake queen (instead of baker,) sign lady (instead of sign language interpreter,) part-time girlfriend, loyal...
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Date Night…And I’m OK With That!
Hair? Check. Make up? Check. Outfit? Check. It’s Date Night and my wife is dressed to impress…however, she’s not going out with me (but I’m OK with that). Shortly after we transitioned into the poly...
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Making a list… Checking it twice.
Something for newbies to think about over the holidays…. When coming to this lovestyle, a lot of times we imagine what would we want as an ideal poly situation coming in the door and make a checklist...
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Polyamory: Whats Love Got to Do With It??
Polyamory: Whats Love Got to Do With It?? I was taught that love was for suckers…. That only tricks and weak people feel in love…. Love was something that got one played. It was a vulnerability that...
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Understanding the stages of New Relationship Excitement and being Poly.
For most Polys, the key to overcoming jealousy and insecurities around your loved ones dating others is to come to a point where you understand that feelings of romantic love are purely chemical. As it...
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Polyamory or Threat?
Daily there are more and more people jumping on this bandwagon called Polyamory in name only. There are a lot of people who join because they truly embrace what being poly means . However there are...
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In Polyamory No One Lies
Polyamorists Cannot Tell a Lie Everyone wants to know the truth. We’ve all complained about someone having lied to us. Some of us have even thought seriously about giving up dating altogether just to...
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You’re Not Poly You’re SELFISH
One thing that really annoys me with men and women in some so-called Poly relationships is the fact that they are doing so because it makes THEM happy. Not US. Meaning for some of us the idea of being...
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Getting to Know Strange
This award-winning teacher and community member hails from Los Angeles and prefers to be known by one name only: Strange. His poly family structure may not be the status quo, if such a designation may...
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Today is Loving Day! Here are 5 of the Many Reasons to Celebrate
Back in 1958, Mildred Jeter, a black woman, and Richard Loving, a white man, couldn’t be legally married in their home state of Virginia. Instead, they married in Washington, DC. However, returning...
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