Black Love: A Family Affair
My grandfather died when I was in middle school. As with all funerals, there are a multitude of family members I’d never met or barely talked to. But hearing about one woman caught me completely by...
View ArticleBlack & Poly Fifth Anniversary
What a great celebration for Black & Poly's Fifth Anniversary! Limited edition shirts and more are for sale in our shop! [products columns="5" category="fifth"] Fun in the Sun We spent the weekend...
View ArticleI Do it For You
When people start exploring polyamory, their reasons for doing so lay out the initial map for the journey. But what happens when your partner tries to convince you to explore polyamory and you’re not...
View ArticleWin a Gift From Black & Poly
Ready for a Black & Poly Christmas? Between now and December 8, make a purchase in our shop and you'll be entered into a drawing to win a poly-themed book ($25 value). Patreon members are...
View ArticleHow to Find and Meet Polyamorous People
A short primer from Franklin Veaux of More Than Two: I have found that it's quite easy to locate partners willing to accept polyamory. In fact, in all honesty, I have to say "no" far more often than I...
View ArticleCouple’s Privilege
A listing of the best sites to find out more about couple's privilege. Definition: The presumption that socially sanctioned pair-bond relationships involving only two people (such as marriage,...
View ArticleRepresentation Matters
When you talk to white middle class polyamorists, you get the viewpoint of white middle class polyamorists. Olivia Goldhill recently wrote about polyamory and whether it is a political movement. While...
View ArticleBlack & Poly Dating
For five years, Black & Poly has been your resource for information on polyamory and diversity in the black community. Now, we are offering a dating service tailored to your needs! Introducing...
View ArticleThe Triangle of Consent
Consent is an agreement between two people about how to move forward in a sexual relationship. While it’s easy to assume that obtaining consent is easy, American society has never created a space for...
View ArticleCrystal’s Guide To Dating
Dating is hard! Dating while poly can be even harder. I’m autistic, so dating for me is hard to navigate without knowing the rules. So how do you talk about your identity, negotiate consent, and build...
View ArticleEmotional Currency
I learned about this concept from my partner M last night. We were talking about processing emotions and how to talk to about them with our partners. M said he’d learned a concept early on in his poly...
View ArticleThe Legal Status Of Polyamory (And How To Make It Better)
You have a right to be poly. The official word of the courts, though, is “ugh, whatever.” On the bright side, there’s no risk of getting prosecuted. As long as no more than two people try to get...
View ArticleHierarchy, Anarchy, and Holidays
Les Hart talks about how she handles holidays as a relationship anarchist. Marriage and Significant Relationships When I first came to the polyamory community, I didn’t understand relationship anarchy...
View ArticleDictionary Short Version
Confused about all the words used in the poly world? This dictionary can help! Check out the full version if you can’t find what you’re looking for. Jump to: A B C D E F H J K L M N O P Q R S T U V W...
View Article2021 Black & Poly Global Meetup
Happy 2021 Black & Poly Members! 2020 was a hard year for everyone, but we at Black & Poly are excited about new ways to connect. Announcing our very first global Black & Poly meetup!...
View ArticlePolyamory Rights in Washington, DC
Chris Smith and Ben Schenker are working to extend anti-discrimination laws to include non-monogamous relationships. They introduced the Right to Family Amendment Act this month to the Washington, DC...
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