Relationship Anarchy and Common Misconceptions
EmailWhat exactly is relationship anarchy, and why is it so hard to define? Wikipedia states “Relationship Anarchy (abbreviated RA) is the practice of forming relationships that are not bound by rules...
View ArticleMeeting Her
URLEmailTake a sneak peak into the BDSM lifestyle in this sample of the posts available to our Patreon subscribers. This post contains adult content and language. I’m preoccupied today. I have a ton of...
View ArticleBi, Poly, Slut, and Muslim: Reconciling and Understanding It All
EmailMaya is an Arab-American polyamorist. Here she shares her story of sexuality, mental illness, and the power of family. I’m a 26 year old woman, and I was born and raised in southern California to...
View ArticleHappily Ever After: The Everitts
Evita Sawyers writes about the Everitt triad after their recent committment ceremony. “What was your favorite part of the commitment ceremony?” I asked each member of the Everitt Triad. Sonya 28,...
View ArticleAsk Aunty: Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell
Ask Aunty is a regular feature of Black & Poly where real people ask about their polyamorous relationships. Aunty is here for you, so ask away! Dear Aunty, I'm trying to convince my husband to be...
View ArticleBook Review: Ayana The Return
Email A book review of Ayana: The Return. This book contains adult content. Peter Mack’s Ayana: The Return is a fascinating book about love, sex and intrigue. At its center are characters that have...
View ArticleThree Questions
Wanting to explore an open relationship with your partner? We have many resources to help you navigate your poly journey, but first, ask yourself some questions. Are you in one of these three...
View ArticleMr. & Misogyny
EmailAlthough the title is meant to be witty and slightly humorous in the name of starting a conversation, the people I’m describing can be quite the opposite. You know them. Or maybe you ARE them. The...
View ArticleLeft Out
Kiikii Santana shares her story of being in a polyamorous relationship. Originally posted in the Black and Poly Facebook group. A bit over 2 years ago, I started dating someone who introduced me to...
View ArticleBDSM 101
URLEmailWhat is it? BDSM or Bondage Dominance Submission or Sadomasochism. Historically it is a coined phrase from the “fathers of sexual deviance,” as I like to call them, the Marquis de Sade and...
View ArticleA Unicorn by Any Other Name
URLEmailA Unicorn by Any Other Name…… “Unicorn.” One of the first terms of the polyamorous lexicon that I encountered upon entering the non-monogamous world. Generally it is used to describe a single...
View ArticleMy Poly Journey
My Poly Journey A cross post from Free Spirited Aqua on her poly journey. I am happy to say I have been getting to know myself a lot better and understanding what polyamory means to me. This is what I...
View ArticleNew Research on Polyamory in the Black Community
Chris Smith recently published a research paper called Open to Love: Polyamory and the Black American. An active member of Black & Poly, he describes himself as an educator, community builder,...
View ArticleA Little Sugar in My Bowl
Ruby Bouie Johnson gathers wisdom from sexologists and sex therapists. “I want a little sugar In my bowl I want a little sweetness Down in my soul I could stand some lovin’ Oh so bad Feel so lonely and...
View ArticleBest Possible Outcomes
URLEmailBest Possible Outcomes So, my girlfriend Leslie has been watching Seinfeld. She didn’t watch it while it was new or in syndication but she was aware of the hype. Now that the hype has settled...
View ArticleDaddy’s girls
URLEmailHere’s another of type of posts available to our Patreon subscribers. This post contains adult content and language. Wake up. Quietly slip out of bed. Close the door so wouldn’t wake them up....
View ArticleThe S Word
“You’re just a slut.” That’s the response I get when I describe my style of polyamory to people. I am not married and I don’t have any live-in partners. One of the reasons I have relationships is to...
View ArticleTell Us!
Confession time! Tell us one of your poly mistakes. Here's one of mine: I dated a poly person who's primary partner said she was never jealous. I believed everything he told me she felt, until one day...
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